6. What can a mother do to prevent getting too entangled in her children’s lives? A mother can help her self to not become too entangled in her child’s life if she is able to keep in mind these circles that I speak of representing the child and her self. Healthy development overall involves each person’s circle growing strong and clear and being able then to interact with others in ways that respect both the other person and our self. Much of what I have spoken of above ...
5. What should a grown child do when Mom is too entangled in their life? The words love and limits comes to my mind here. When a grown child is feeling that their mother is too involved in their life – whether that be physically, emotionally, or financially, for example – that grown child will be helped by explaining to their mother the ways the mother can and can not be helpful to them now. This is really what we call setting boundaries. Those boundaries can include ...
4. How does “too much mothering” impact a child? The above list in Part 5 gives us a glimpse of the effects on the mother when bonding may be getting too tight and an entanglement is developing. For the child, our over-functioning on their behalf can create a wide variety of responses from them including: - A belief that they are not capable of doing things on their own. - A ...
3. What are some warning signs that the bonding has become entanglement? Entanglements have to be identified by the individual(s) within a relationship. Each relationship has its own levels of separateness and closeness that can work for the individuals in that relationship. With that said, we may be becoming entangled with our child if we: - Are very preoccupied with them. - Are ...
2. How old should a child be when a mother begins to loosen her bonds with that child? Each child and mother is an individual, and therefore, the answer to this question does not involve naming an age to start loosening bonds. I will say that this loosening of bonds is an on-going process over many years and has many different forms depending on the developmental level of the child. Even as children are very young, they may start to say things like, “I can do ...
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